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Thai Girls: Are They Right for You?

There are a thousand topics about Thai girls out there like: how to find a good Thai girl to marry, how to marry a Thai bar girl, how to find a “good Thai girl”, tips for dating Thai girls, etc. I would add some more questions: are you polite, are you jealous, do you respect Thai culture, are you willing to pay the dowry, do you respect Thailand?

Thai girls: Are they right for you or not?

First of all let me say that there is no substantial difference between Thai girls and Western girls, they do not come from another galaxy and you should not behave differently with them than you do with girls from your country. However, keep in mind that Thai and Western cultures are quite different in many ways, so you should act accordingly. Most Thai girls are quite similar to girls living elsewhere in the world. Every Thai girl has her own personality and as every girl is different we cannot judge them globally. Personally I think Thai girls are pretty good. Most of my best friends are Thai girls.

After many years in Thailand I have realised that if you respect the Thai people, they will respect you too, and if you are honest with your Thai girl, she will be honest with you. Keep in mind that Thais are tired of drunken westerners and sex tourists who don’t respect their country and culture. If you are nice to them, they will be very nice to you.

The best place to find a Thai girl is… Thailand. Yes, Thailand! However, avoid meeting your girl in a club, venue or bar. The best place is at the market, cinema, shopping mall, supermarket or even walking down the street. If you meet a girl in a club or bar, she will be a bar girl, if you meet her walking down the street, in a shop or restaurant, she will probably be an honest, kind-hearted, good-natured, sincere, easy going, marriage minded, faithful and romantic Thai girl.

Nowadays, Thai girls are usually open-minded and don’t care about age, but they already have a father, be reasonable. As Thai girls are perhaps the most beautiful girls in the world, most of them look much better in real life than in the picture. You will be surprised.

Most Thai women are conservative by nature, so don’t trust a girl who agrees to have sex with you on the first or even the fourth date – a well-educated Thai woman wants to remain chaste until marriage. Recently, however, some young Thai girls are embracing Western cultures such as sex before marriage, especially those living in Bangkok.

Online Dating Sites

The most dangerous place to find your soulmate is Internet. I’m talking about dating sites in general, not just in Thailand. Social networks are plenty of “honest, good natured, sincere, kind heart, easy-going, marriage-minded, faithful, romantic” girls from everywhere. They claim “I love children. I like cooking, travel and watch movies, I have sense of humor” etc. Behind these profiles there are many pretty decent girls while eventually many others may try to get money from you, sometimes she is not a girl but a guy or a gang trying to extort money from you. A typical way they use to get money from victims is “my mother got sick” or “I need money to pay the hospital bills”. Another scam is “my dad had an accident, please send me money”. I heard these stories in different occasions and surprisingly many men believe them and get scammed (Including myself years ago).

Profiles with girls posing in expensive clothes, in nightclubs or traveling on a luxury yacht near an island paradise are not for you. Think before you make a decision: who paid the price for this? Possibly another guy like you, or many of them. Look for a simple girl.

I don’t mean that you can’t find your girl on the Internet, just be careful, especially if the girl is young and pretty and you are in your 40s or 50s. Forget about girls who ask for money, most Thai girls will never ask you for money and will never talk about it.

Marrying a Thai girl

There are many successful Thai-Western couples, but frankly there are also many unsuccessful stories. So what is the problem? Different cultures, misunderstandings and, of course, financial problems. Thai women marry Westerners because they are supposed to be faithful and financially stable and educated, so the girls believe that foreigners will give them a happy life. Therefore, Westerners are the choice of many Thai women. However, most Thai women prefer Thais, but not all.

However, money is not everything to Thai women; indeed, I know several Thai women who will not even accept a gift or an invitation to dinner, and many who have invited me to lunch or dinner, paying the bills themselves.

Thai girls dislike jealous, rude and disrespectful men, specially those who don’t respect the Thai culture and traditions, Thai girls look for nice guys. Thai girls just want to be “sabai” (happy) and have a good life and respectful husband. If you respect them, they will respect you. Thai girls are family-oriented, this mean that they help and respect their parents and family more than westerners do. Keep in mind that if you marry a Thai lady, probably you’ll need to assume economic responsibility for her family in some cases.

Thai culture expects men to pay a dowry. A dowry or (sin sot) is a sum of money, property or goods paid to the bride’s family at the time of the wedding. Many foreigners are not willing to pay any money to the bride’s parents, some of them say that paying a dowry is negotiating the sale of their daughter. Dowry is a Thai tradition, as it is a common practice in many Asian countries and a way to show that you are financially stable. They will not sell your daughter. To pay the dowry you have to negotiate with your girlfriend’s parents. How much dowry do you have to pay? That depends on the family. I know some friends who did not pay dowry, but gave compensation to the family, like a car or a small house (which is very cheap in Thailand), but some families may ask for 100,000 THB, 200,000 THB and up to 1.3 million THB or more if you marry a celebrity or an eminence. But there are other families who don’t ask for a dowry either, especially if their daughter is divorced and has children, and some parents don’t even mind receiving a dowry.

Anyway, a wedding with a western girl in your country will be much more expensive.

Bar girls in Thailand

Many foreigners think that Thailand is a huge massage parlour and that Thai women make their living in bars and clubs. This is not true. Have you ever been to Las Ramblas in Barcelona? Amsterdam? There is far more prostitution than in any average city in Thailand.

I agree that Thailand is home to many brothels and bars, but most of them are in certain tourist areas of Bangkok, Phuket and, of course, the infamous Pattaya City. Most of the girls who work there come from the northeast of Thailand (or Isan), the poorest part of the country, and are looking for a way to earn easy money. The average salary in Isan is very low, about 6,000 baht a month, perhaps 8,000 baht, so many girls are tempted to move to Pattaya to earn enough money to help their families and also to buy an iPhone, a laptop or a car and even to build a new house for their parents.

However, I noticed that most of the girls who prostitute themselves did not go to university, many had children at a young age and often their husband ran away without paying child support, they prostituted themselves out of economic necessity.

Someone said “bar girls don’t want you, they want your money”, anyway there are also good girls working in a bar, but unfortunately most of them lost their “innocence” after years of meeting rude and rude foreign (and local) customers. Some bar girls are married or have boyfriends and give them part of their earnings, so some Thais don’t mind their girlfriends going to the clubs? I think they do. Money talks.

Fortunately, only a very small percentage of Thai women work in these types of bars and venues, most Thai women have decent jobs and are honest girls.

Worth to know:

  • Don’t stay away from your Thai girlfriend for too long. I don’t mean you’ll get another one, but you could certainly get bored of waiting.
  • Even if you are well off, never show her your financial situation. You will never know if she loves you or likes your money (this also applies to European and American girls).
  • Thai girls are very innocent, until they have bad experiences with boys and their hearts are broken.
  • Contrary to certain myths, Thai women and, in general, all Asian women are NOT submissive, but have a strong character and a strong personality.
  • Thai women do not show their feelings.
  • Thais, and especially Thai women, tend to think that all “farangs” (Westerners) are extremely wealthy.
  • Thais are NOT poor. Thailand is not a poor country.
  • Most Thais are incredibly friendly and will respect you if you respect them and Thailand.

-Thailand News (TN)

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